Finding a partner is easy, to keep it as not so much, if you go over the first phase that do not judge you, your schedule, your need for sleep, after you get over the phase of the advice and will try to change/heal, do this, do that, do that, test with this.... you have to reach the stage of acceptance,
This is actually an advantage for people that do not surpass the first two stages prove to be some mediocre, and of course, no one wants to go out with a mediocre, or siquira while not what think is, to me this has saved me a lot of time